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He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys | 
 enlarge | Authors: Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo
Publisher: Simon Spotlight Entertainment
Category: Book
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Rating:  894 reviews
Sales Rank: 10135
Media: Hardcover
Edition: Illustrated.
Pages: 176
Number Of Items: 1
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8 x 5.4 x 0.8
ISBN: 068987474X
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.7
EAN: 9780689874741
ASIN: 068987474X
Publication Date: September 7, 2004
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He says: Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. She says: There is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn't ever feel like I'm just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it's good for us all to remember that we don't need to scheme and plot, or beg anyone to ask us out. We're fantastic. For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. He's afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He's just not that into you. Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their actions absolutely show how they feel. He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo's wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love with you and want to be with you." He's Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought that maybe He's just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.
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| Customer Reviews: Read 889 more reviews...
 Love at first sight or nothing at all? June 25, 2009
Monte (New Zealand)
Greg is suggesting that all good relationships begin with love at first sight - the two are completely smitten with each other from the get go and that if this does not happen then then nothing will ever happen...
Look at all the relationships around you and ask yourself how often this is the case? I believe that love can grow over time as people get to know each other. I'm not saying that if you're into a guy you should keep calling/stalking him when he's not getting in touch with you - I'm just saying that it's not always as clear cut as Greg suggests.
He's also forgetting about shy guys who are totally into you but would rather live a loney life then risk the embarrassment of being rejected. And there are many of them.
Quite entertaining, light, magazine like reading though which is why I give it the second star.
Every Woman (AND MAN!) Needs to Read This June 18, 2009
jessjess
This is a book I wish I'd read when I was 12. Sheesh, how much easier my life would have been!
It gets a bid redundant after a while, I found myself thinking, "Okay, okay, I heard ya, I heard ya!" But at the same time, talking to girlfriends who've also read the book, they're still finding excuses for the one they're pining over. So, maybe we need the repetition...
Hmm, now I'm wondering if I may need to read it again to make sure it soaks in!
And just in case you were wondering, none of the guys that I've talked to that have read this have contradicted a single word of it!
 He's just not that into you June 16, 2009
Michelle M. Cansler (N. Ft. Myers FL)
The book was good, but it told you why to dump the man, but not how to deal afterwards or how to handle the next man that shows he just may not be that into you, I mean, really, you dump one and another comes along, you find out after a week or so, but how do you handle them before that week comes about? Hope you understand what I'm trying to say?
No new information June 12, 2009
A. Thompson
The title is sort of misleading - the book didn't give me any insights into the opposite sex I didn't already have. Married men don't want me, even though they may pretend to? Not exactly earth-shattering news.
I enjoyed the book anyway; the authors were funny and honest, making it an easy read. Just don't expect to learn anything new about relationships.
 FYI: Shy Guys Actually Do Exist and Aren't Lazy June 9, 2009
William H. Kelsey (the planet of Vulcan)
6 out of 6 found this review helpful
Okay,to sum up this book in a sentence I would say that it is "The Rules" repackaged in a hipper format for a younger generation. That is,the goal of these books is to simply find a man who responds (and even loves)mind games and enjoys jumping like a dog through hoops rather than one who values you as a person and geniunely wants to get to know you (rather than the manipulative tart who keeps putting obstacles in his way and keeping him at arm's length).
The main problem this books present is the lack of female empowerment in the intial contact (basically, as a woman,you have to just sit there and pray that the one guy in the place in whom you have interest comes up to you while having to deal with those you have no interest the whole night.You can do nothing besides accepting dates or denying them;never approaching your man of interest.This is an incredibly weak position) and the philosophy that shy guys either do not exist,are simply not into you,or just lazy sckmucks.Nothing could be further from the truth.There is also the very 1950's belief spread in these books that any man who accepts a date from a woman is simply going to view her as an easy lay and not relationship material.Okay, let me be blunt,yes,there are men like that out there.My nephew and his friends who have barely evolved to the state of standing upright certainly espouse this view.They also are the kind of guys who try to get the highest number of girls into bed and brag about all of the degrading things they can get them to do.Are these the kind of guys you want to date? Greg and Liz do a great job at teaching you how to land a player,but really,do you want to be the last stop(hopefully) on a whirl wind tour of chicks? The type of guy who has to be manipulated and tricked into marriage (a la "The Rules")is exactly the type of guy who will leave you with three kids after he's tired of feeling trapped.Not every guy is the marrying type,and most of the "smooth" men,the kind who have no problem starting a conversation wih any girl and who enjoy a pursuit the most are exactly the kind who will refer to you as "the ball and chain" and look forward to every bachelor party they can get invited to, and refer to their own wedding as the "march of death".
Here's a clue ladies:nice guys may finish last in the dating game,they're not flashy and won't write a power ballad about you that makes the international charts,but they make the best husbands and fathers for your children.I have been married for ten years now,never cheated,and was asked out by my beloved.Yes,I am actually shy and the thought of asking women out literally made me ill.If you want to write me off as lazy or lame then so be it,but after years (sometimes decades) of misery I'm the type you will be looking for.Bottomline:if you're interested,ask the guy out.The worst that can happen is that he's not interested and you now know that rather than wondering about what might had been.And who knows?He might be a shy guy who is extremely interested in you as well and is now flattered and relieved that the relationship ball has begun rolling.And what if he's a jerk who was refuses to date women who ask him out?Be happy you managed not to get into a relationship with such a Neanderthal.
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